Browsing Tag: judgement

When I was a freshman at BYU I met this young woman who in looking at her was not very attractive. She was scrawny with poor posture.  Her hair was cut in an a very unflattering way and it was frizzy and very apparent she didn’t know what to do with it.  She had white spots on her front teeth and scars all over her face from acne. She was what someone might call homely.  One day she introduced me to her fiancé who was tall, good looking and even dressed nicely and I remember thinking “what does he see in her?”  As I got to know her I noticed how kind she was, how she was the first to volunteer to help someone and how positive she was.  She always had kind things to say about others.  She was truly a joy to be around and I grew to respect her greatly.  As I got to know her fiancé I realized he was pretty corny, and not very bright so it was difficult to have a conversation with him and he seemed a little self-absorbed. One day when I was working with her on a project he came over and when I saw the two of them together I remember thinking “what does she ever see in him” and then of course laughed at myself when I realized the complete turn around that I had down. Sometimes when I first meet people it’s easy to see only their outward appearance, and I have found that I’m often wrong in my judgement of them, for good or bad.  She taught me what true beauty is.